How Can Kink Improve Your Relationship? | Midori

“Domination's the name of the game in bed or in life, They're both just the same, Except in one you're fulfilled at the end of the day, Let's play master and servant”.

This is how Depeche Mode described what is now called “Kink” in their hit song “Master And Servant”. When I first heard this song as a teenager, I had no idea what they were talking about. I just thought it was a cool song from one of my favorite bands and to be completely open at the time making out with a boy was as far as I could even think about. Now I understand what they are talking about but like many of us I don’t know the deep down value of this play. What draws someone to dominating another person in bed or even better why would someone want to be dominated? Is this just fun couple’s play or is there something about it that being treated like a dog helps balance a person out? Like many of you I’m curious to learn more; to answer these questions and more we interviewed “The Supernova of Kink” from San Francisco. With a title like that we should get to the bottom of this matter…..then SPANK the hell out of it!

Our guest today, Midori “The Supernova of Kink” is a renowned educator and writer on sexuality that emerged from the Sex Positive Movement in San Francisco in the early 1990’s.

Midori is known for tackling challenging topics with fresh and relevant insights which calls on her “head-heart-hands” method to create a space where people are allowed individual self-exploration. Fundamentally she is motivated by helping people to create authentic and intimate relationships while emphasizing self-actualization, shame reduction, acceptance, and justice.

Her writing is extensive, ranging from numerous articles, columns, works of fiction, to instructional books. She is the author of The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage, Wild Side Sex, and Master Han's Daughter. She leads transformative small group intensives, including ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend Intensive, Rope Dojo ®, and The Wanted Man intensive.

When she's not traveling and teaching, she's creating provocative and haunting art and performances.

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Jeff Harrison